The time has come…

The time has come…

To talk of many things:
Of shoes–and ships–and sealing-wax–
Of cabbages–and kings–
And why the sea is boiling hot–
And whether pigs have wings.

Okay, no idea where Alice Through the Looking Glass came from. Just popped into my head randomly so we’re going with it!
Well, my room is getting bare. Everything has been taken off the walls, most of my life is packed into bloxes aside form basic necessities I may need over the next couple of weeks. My car has been cleaned and vacuumed, boxes packed into that will fit, and now I am sitting with a cup of tea enjoying the silence while my daughter plays with her new Disney barbies.

Downsides

It’s beginning to hit me hard that for the first time in her life, she will be away from me frequently and for extended periods of time. Her father has joint-custody and wants her every other 6 weeks, and as of right now I have no choice but to agree. That means every 6 weeks I will be driving 10 hours to “meet in the middle” to pick her up/drop her off, then 10 hours back home. The driving doesn’t bother me really. I need to learn to become more comfortable behind the wheel of a vehicle anyhow.
However, being without her that long is going to really mess with me emotionally. I’ve spent her whole life, aside from about a year where I had no choice, being a stay at home mother. I’ve catered to her needs daily, and always been there if she was sick, hurt, or just needed mommy. Now I can still do those things, but from behind a computer or phone screen. I will video chat with her every day, but in the end, it still is not even close to the same. I cannot feel her, hug her, or give her kisses. She’s not even old enough to understand why it has to be this way.
It upsets me even more because her father is merely doing this out of spite, as when she is with him now, living in the same city, he yells at her and ignores her constantly. I don’t expect it to be any better once I leave either. As parents, it is our duty to care for our children. To love and cherish them, and to teach them how to be productive members of society once they come of age. We are to do this, no matter how we might feel about our child’s other parent. It is going to be a hell of a rough transition, but thankfully I will have everything set up for her once we move, and give her something fun and exciting to come home to. I’ve told myself to always look at he silver lining, and think about how amazing I’ll be able to make her room for when she gets to see it!

Sights To See

Aside from the worrying about Emma, I am warming up to the moving idea quickly. The more something negative or frustrating happens here, the more moving away sounds desirable. I have spent about 10 years of my life in this city, and it’s been about 7 years too long, if you ask me! Want to know what I am looking forward to the most about Columbus? A BOOKSTORE! A REAL BOOKSTORE!

Where I live currently there is very little to do, despite being a relatively decent sized city(over 100K population). Of course where I am moving to the census in 2010 said there were about 8 times that amount. I’d assume there’s about 900K-1 million people in the city as of now, possibly more. Therefore of course there is more demand for things like bookstores. Also, they have one of the highest ranking zoos/aquariums in the United States, and while I don’t particularly enjoy zoos(I always feel a bit sad for the animals) this is something Emma will love. I also read up on a few amusement parks near where I’ll be living, and they too are very highly recommended.

The city parks are what I’ll be looking forward to most after having a bookstore nearby. I love to go read in parks, and since I won’t be having to deal with 100+ degree weather any longer, I will possibly be able to actually enjoy summers! that is something I simply cannot wait for! David was completely amazing while packing up the top of the closet and found my Kindle Paperwhite that I thought was gone forever to abyss where socks disappear to. So I’m charging it and whatnot right now! I hope all of my books are still there, but if not it’s not a total loss. Most of them were classic literature books that were free on the kindle store.

Also I’ve heard the gardens are to die for they’re so beautiful. I’ll have to take some photos, because after getting some stuff unpacked, I told David probably the second or third day we’re there I want him to take me to sight see. He’s from Columbus so he should be able to help me find some really pretty places! As a plus it might help with my depression from being separated from Emma too. Not to mention I’ll already know the best places to take her once I pick her up!

Moving Headache

Well, one downside is definitely the cost associated with moving! We were going to rent a moving truck and pull my car behind, but they wanted 850 for the truck and another 150 for the toy dolly for my car. I said no thank you. Definitely not. I will not pay $1100 to move PLUS the about $600 in gas the truck would cost me. Nah, bruh, I’m good. So as silly as it sounds we are going to install a pull on my little 2013 Hyundai Accent(which surprisingly can tow up to 2000 lbs apparently o.O) and pull a small trailer with it. I really don’t ave a lot of stuff, and we wouldn’t be taking a trailer at all except the two pieces of furniture I do own are my bed and desk, which no matter how good at TETRIS I might be, it’s not fitting in my tiny car bahaha. So right now that’s the plan, and just cover the stuff on the little trailer with one of those plastic tarp things in case it rains or whatever. I’d much rather pay about $400 plus gas in my own car than around $1500-$1600 for a moving van when I don’t even really need all that space in the first place.

Have you guys ever moved as adults? If so, how did you handle everything?

10 thoughts on “The time has come…

  1. I’ve never moved (I’m still with my parents). I look forward to moving, but I am at a stage of my life where I consider myself a minimalist, and since I am aware that moving a lot of furniture can be troublesome, I plan to make sure I don’t fill my future homes with too many things I don’t need and can potentially get attached to. I guess it might be harder if you have a family, though!

    But oh, Shanae. I’m sorry to hear your daughter’s father is doing this out of spite and may not be the best parent for her. But if you are meeting in the middle and he must also be driving ten hours or travelling the same distance, then surely he must have a bit of heart in it, if he doesn’t mind making the time to travel? But I am glad to hear you are looking on the bright side and going to make the best home for your daughter – you are controlling what you can control.

    “Nah, bruh, I’m good.” – hahaha. Good luck with the move, keep us updated, and would definitely love to hear more about the differences between the two cities 🙂

    1. I’m definitely going to take some pictures. It will be so refreshing from going from west TX weather and brown-ness to Ohio’s milder weather and greenery. I’ve looked up some photos of the state parks in the state and I have to say I’ll be camping and hiking as much as possible because it’s GORGEOUS! I’ll definitely be sharing the pictures I take too!

  2. It would be so hard not being with your daughter all the time. 6 weeks is a long time to be apart. I guess, it’s good that you have that amount of time with her as well, but still, not easy. I can imagine it would be difficult for her too. 🙁

    It’s good that you are looking forward to the move! Hopefully living in a new city with more opportunities will be much better. Bookstores are a major bonus! 😀

    Wow. That would have been so expensive to hire the van. It sounds like a better options with what you have decided!

    Hope it goes well. 🙂

    1. Thanks Kya! I think it’ll be a good change in the end! I might actually finally get done with school, and get on a good career path, which in the long run will be better for both me and my kiddo. Plus it’s not as hot there and there’s actual greenery! =O
      I’m looking forward to the pretty landscapes, and DEFINITELY will be taking A LOT of photos bahaha.

  3. I am so sorry to hear that your daughter’s father is acting this way. I totally agree, a parent should look for their child’s best interest. I hope things will turn out for the best and I hope Emma will grow up nicely and loved.

    Moving can be hard. I remember when I moved from my hometown it was so hard, but I didn’t get too much stuff with me. I moved into a new house and over the years I just bought stuff. But if I were to move now, I would definitely have a lot of stuff to pack.

    I hope everything goes well and this transition will be easy for you. Take care and I send all my love to you and your daughter.

    1. It’s going to be rough at first, but hell, I’ve been through worse and come out on top, so BRING IT! lol
      Thank you SO much for stopping by! Moving our stuff isn’t too bad since we don’t have much. I figure the best time I have to move it will cost a pretty penny though since I have a goal to get at least SOME furniture soon, even if it is second-hand. Then again, sometimes second hand furniture is the best. My desk was a good second hand find for sure, as it was free and still in perfect condition!

      1. Second hand things are great. Unfortunately there aren’t many second hand furniture shops around here. People buy new furniture or don’t buy at all.

        The S7 edge batter is supposed to last more, it has larger capcity. Also it has a lot of battery saving options. Mine arrived yesterday and I am so happy with it. I will let you know how it acts in time <3.

        1. That sounds great. I’ve been thinking of upgrading mine, buuuut I don’t know anyone who has one so I can’t get an honest opinion of them lol. They had such a bad rap when they came out, but I’ve heard they’ve fixed most of the issues.

  4. I can’t believe that this is the first time I’ve stumbled across your blog! Or at least I think it is >.> I’m sorry to hear about the way your daughter’s father is acting :/ That sucks that you and your daughter have to go through that and that you have to go without seeing her because of his spite. I’ve moved a lot when I was younger (I went to 4/5 different elementary schools and 4 different middle schools) so I am very familiar with the whole moving process. Good luck with the transition and all the unpacking!

    The new city you’re moving to sounds really exciting! That’s also great there’s a bookstore nearby to your new home! I love books and the Kindle is great. I own a Nook but I like having a Kindle app because they sometimes have books that Barnes and Noble doesn’t have, like self-published books and a few not as well known fantasy and romance books.

    1. Thanks! I’m actually going to check out your blog too(I think I’ve stumbled onto it once before, but not sure)

      I think despite the b/s I have to go through with my ex-husband, at this point moving will still provide a better future for myself and my daughter, so I feel like I have to do it, ya know?
      I moved a lot and went to a few different schools as a child myself, and I’m hoping to avoid that having to happen to my kiddo. She still has almost 2 years before school starts, so we’ll see where we are at that point!

      I have a kindle paperwhite that I really love, but don’t have much in the way of book for it aside from the free classic literature books you can get on the kindle store lol.

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